Color vs Character!!!!
Hmmmm….Ever wondered which century are u living in….Phat *21st century* wud come as the reply from most of the people…but still do u really think its 21st century??
Just think about it!!!
Ooh I don’t have a problem with a guy being gay…m all with it…but deep down inside the moment he leaves u make fun of him…
U still run away from eunuchs and behave rudely to them....
U still don’t talk about
U discriminate people on their races,colors,religion
Don’t tell me this doesn’t happen in
But I don’t think so !!!!!
We say “V RNT RACIST”
N we term gujaratis- Gujjus,marwadis
Punjabis- Paaape
Bengalis-Banglas
Telugus-Katles
N what not…n still we say aaaah…we r not like racist…..many people have been grown up on santa n banta jokes…pulling the Punjabi’s legs each time……
Well this article doesn’t go with the topic..doesnt it….but keep on reading fellas ….in few moments m gonna show u the real scenario of THE GREAT INDIAN(HYDERABADI)WEDDING…..how it goes in
Therez a great saying
People can be divided into three classes, the few who make things happen, the many who watch things happen, and the overwhelming majority who have no idea what has happened.
So u decide which class do u fall in?????
Well me being a great hyderabadi fan…n ardent lover!!! When I see people crib about
A typical add for a wedding goes like this
“Wanted bride who is very very very fair n good looking and should be 18-23 yr old, people already contacted please don’t contact”
or
Urgent Matrimonial
And everything goes around the color of the gurl!!!
Im sure many of you people might be going through this but none of us bother to open their mouth and say the truth
There are only 2 ways how u can get a guy to get married to u
- Either u should have looks like Aishwarya Rai
- Or u should have money like Bill gates or Anil Ambani
Me being unlucky in both the criteria’s (heheh)
The list doesn’t stop here…..if u think this is all u gotaa have to get married(arranged) then u r in for surprises……..firstly u have to fulfill the obligations of the bridegroom’s mom dad n then there r the obligations made by the bridegroom himself!!!!
Im damn sure many of you after reading this article would comment
“Dear sis…I think you r going through the same scenario and that’s y u wrote about it…….”
Or
“World is not full with such kind of people……u r mistaken”
Or
“Ooh things don’t go around like this lately”
But my dear fellow hydros…this is wat
They say
“Baccha Amrika mei hai!!!kamaaraa…aapki bacchi GORI TOH HAI NAAA” meaning
(Guy is in America.Earning good bucks..IS
Suppose everything is fixed also…and
They do care to come visit the girl…..ask her millions of questions….ok let me give u my example……
When a potential match had come to see me!!! What happened to me!! !
Me(waiting for them to come n see me kinda nervous)
Enter the hall :
Potential Mom in law Sitting(PMIL)
Potential Sister in Law(PSIL)
My mom
PMIL :ooh come come
ME : J
PMIL : What’s
ME: I introduce my self
PMIL: so what did u study(DUH WHAT A DUMB QUESTION)
ME:I again tell it to her
All the while PSIL Is watching me
PMIL: so wat are
ME : J (IM ROFL In MY HEART)
PMIL :what happened
ME : J nothing aunty J
PMIL : do u know to cook (duh as if she wants to open a restaurant)
ME :Ahan yeah J
My mom interrupts says : Ooh ive given her a wonderful training in cooking………blah blah blah
PMIL : J
PSIL : whats
ME :- ahem I say my height
PSIL : can I chck it ( as if she’s carrying a measuring tape with her and trying to check it )
ME: SURE J
PSIL: can u take
ME : (giving irritated looks @ my mom ) sure
PSIL :oooh yeah shes ok!!( as if shes taller or equal to me)
Now comes the center shock :P
I wanna go inside and PMIL starts with her stupid logical questions!!!!
And then I ask my mom can I go!!! She says ahan no not yet!! Then PSIL n PMIL have a discussion
I eavesdrop im good @ it
PSIL; toh kya bolre ammi(so what do u say mom)
PMIL: kya hai ki sab acchi hai bacchi lekin thoda color kam hai nai !!!(I don’t know everything is fine but she is lil dark)
PSIL:toh kya boleinge (while eating her pastries n drinking coke like a pig )(“so what do we say)
U knw many people just come to have refreshments !!!
PMIL:”khamoosh hojaainge ghar ku jaake”(WE’LL B SILENT)
Then they talk something which I cud not hear properly !! n then they leave
N I feel so horrible!!!!!!
coz just coz of my mom dad I get ready to sit infront of them …….a guy who I think is not worth enough for me…..n who is as educated as im….and if I had my chance I wud surely be more successful than him….but yet!! I still go and sit!!!!
N then they never bother to call back!!!they r just meant to go on refreshments picnics!!n m not @ all interested in such filthy,stinky,ignorant people!!
I shared this experience just to let people like these know!!
How it feels to judge a person by their color n not by their character !!
Shed those veils of yours people….dont b hypocrites!!b what u r ….if u r not ok with something communicate…..dont go and hibernate in
Its high time….u actually practice what u preached!!
The world hates change, yet it is the only thing that has brought progress.
People say they love truth, but in reality they want to believe that which they love is true.
WAKE UP PEOPLE!!!
Adios people!!!!!!
Aisaaa ammaa!! kuch naya likho. ye to hum sabku maloom hai.
ReplyDeleteThanks for wasting five mins of my life!!!
Achcha! to aapka asal naam rumi hai??? kitte naama to bhi aapke??
maloom hai toh amal karna sikho!!!n just move on with the name thing dude!!aapka real name chahoosh hai??wats chaoosh btw??
ReplyDeletejaisa aapka naam rumi hai mera naam chaoosh hai samjhe taami!!
ReplyDeletekya amal karo bolre aap? kaali ladki se shaadi
karlo bolre kya mereku?
waise aapku koi bhi shaadi karliya bina paiso ke to uske nekiya bad jaate kya???
wow!
ReplyDeletei totally understand the situation and the feeling, and know that its a pathetic custom followed. but unfortunately i don't see any other way. a woman is married for her piety, lineage, wealth and beauty. in my view, lineage and wealth can be discarded, as there were old time specific customs and reasons behind these. its not easy to know how pious a girl/family is by visiting once. possible that people may show off. the only thing left is the beauty which is an obvious observation. given a choice anybody would like to get the best.
it would be nice if you moderate the comments at least for this post to get some decent opinions from others, and filter out the crap.
AH KHAN
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ReplyDelete@AH...yeah but then that doesnt mean u want nothing but Aishwarya rais or priyanka chopra....m not saying go for some thing ugly but beauty is surely obvious observation but dat does not mean u discriminate people like that...
ReplyDeleteNothing new reading this, had happened to my sisters and will be done again when this blogger will the the PSIL. Well the good news is that people from southern India are more often dark than fair, so even the darker ones find their matches later if not sooner. If you want this to stop, people will start getting cranky about other 'desirable' things. My 2 cents wud be not bother a lot about the system in vogue, and if you do care, educate your friends and later "implement" it when u yourself are looking for brides for your brother, son or nephew
ReplyDeletewell said MR.FARAZ...it might be something old nothing new for u...but for me its whole new xperience...n its not that southern or northern india.its all over the world..if it wasnt like tat then people wudnt b blacks,whites,browns......
ReplyDeleteSister Rumi, If I were a girl I wouldnt have hated less what happens to most girls in hyd. And that could explain your exageration of some points. Its a custom where the girls are always on the receiving end. But then we are also part of a society where the females are on the receiving end mostly bcoz of females (mother in laws etc). Now that my sisters are married I am afraid I will probably see something similar when its time to marry my daughter(s).
ReplyDeleteYes change is required and you would have done favours by suggesting some improvements in the selection process. As regards peoples' desires and preferences this is a result of centuries of cultural changes. This is true that hyd people including my family give a lot of importance to beauty. But where everyone is an opportunist who will bring the change. For example when I got married I asked my family to see min. no. of girls and make it clear that we will not allow the girl to bring anything except her personal belongings. But I have also seen those days when people tried to buy me with their money even as their girls were not a match for me.
To conclude asking everyone to change would be too much but starting with yourself would be the best option.
A M Khan